Sorry to bump up this topic so much… looking at it closely, when i run web-colour mode on photoshop it does drop the brightness to a level approximately the same as my pc’s display, so that’s what I use to make sure i havent made things /far/ too light. I’m using a standard reasonably new VGA monitor on my mac, which isnt exactly normal either…
I dont actually have the pantone booklet thing to compare it to anymore, but as i only do web-graphics that’s no biggie i guess… It wasnt mine in the first place, hehe
LCD screens have really weird colour too, my fiancŽe’s ibook is really… well… bright! deep colours. shrugs Problem’s always going to be, regardless of standards, people will change their calibration settings for their own tastes to make reading things easier and visiting the sites they like… so can never really ensure anyone’s going to see anything right short of giving them a hard-copy… 
here’s my current monitor profile stats (if it makes any sense to anyone!) it just looked… right… ?
Native Gamma: 2.48
Target Gamma: 2.07
Chromaticities___x______y
Red Phosphor__0.64___0.33
Green Phos.____0.30___0.60
Blue Phos._____0.15___0.06
Native White:___0.31___0.33
Target White Point: Native…
I guess this still means i’ve got a much brighter display than everyone else? the calibrator runs you through a very similar RGB routine as that page, but at the Gamma stage it lets you pic any level you want, with a slider ranging from linear (1.0) through Mac Standard (1.8) through Pc standard (2.2) and going up as far as 2.6! Gaarr.
I’d like everything to look right for everyone I guess, i suppose it’s no big deal. 